Interesting News Story

Ok, so apparently all the talk on the blogs today is about a different Frey (is it just me or is this a totally bizarre coincidence???) and I feel compelled to weigh in on this one. This time, a one Travis Frey from Council Bluffs, IA has made the news in that he allegedly kidnapped and raped his wife for her alleged failure to honor their marital contract. The Contract is detailed at Smoking Gun and is quite interesting. But, being in the law, my mind is trained in a certain way. Often times, we learn more about people from what they DON'T say, rather than from what they do say. IMO, there is an awful lot of this story missing from all the news stories about this incident that are presently circulating. Like, for example, how long have they been married? When did he first present this contract to her? She must have complied for a period of time or he would not have kidnapped her and raped her as punishment for her transgressions, if in fact, that did occur. Again, as with the James Frey story, (see previous post), I think there is something the public is just NOT being told here. I think she actually liked to get her kink on with this guy, as defined in the now infamous Contract, but when he took it a little too far, she cried victim. Now, I could be totally wrong here but this type of stuff just doesn't come out of nowhere. AND, since no one signed it, there really is NO PROOF that he even penned the damn thing himself. They could have had a lovely afternoon of intercourse, she later catches him cheating, or something else enrages her, and she creates this Contract and goes to the police. As his defense lawyer has said, there is simply no proof that The Contract was generated by Frey. And as far as the child pornography charges go, why aren't we being told the specifics of that story either? What if he looked at the picture of what he thought to be a 20 year old girl and turns out, she was 15 and he is now busted for child porn? This stuff happens, folks, so I'm simply leaving open the door to the possibility that this guy is the victim. That's what is so great about our justice system, the man is INNOCENT until proven guilten. Unless of course, you are tuned into all the feminazi's blogs today, in which case he is already guilty and should be hanging in the town square by his balls, according to them. The only thing this guy has against him at this point, IMO, is that there exists a strong correlation between science fiction freaks being pedophiles. Now, I'm not saying ALL science fiction fans are pedophiles, but research indicates that almost all pedophiles are extreme science fiction fans. And he did use a Star Trek font in The Contract so maybe he is, after all, a pedophile and a wife abuser. But I say, let all the facts come in first, folks, and then let's decide. Because, right now, we just have the wife's side of this story and that could very well be her crying foul, for whatever reason. I will be very interested to see how this plays out in days to come. And to all the feminazis out there who are screaming at the top of their lungs that this guy needs to be castrated and then beheaded, a famous quote comes to mind: "Me think thou doth protest too much", meaning, they just WISH their men would show them this same level of interest and attention and because their men can't even compare to this guy's affections and attention toward his wife, they are pissed and want Frey to pay. Men, let's just face it: with all the feminazi propaganda out there, you can't win. Don't even try.

Friends Forever

Over the past 3 months, I have been firing some of my friends. Well, firing people who call themselves my friends but really aren't. These are people that have been in my life for years, in some cases, decades, and really didn't deserve the privilege of being there because of how they treated me, or mistreated me as the case often was. So it brings to mind the question: why is it so hard to find and keep good friends? Are people really so self-absorbed and selfish these days that they can't even bother with the true meaning of friendship anymore? In honor of this thought, I have put together a list of what it takes to make the cut, so to speak, and not get fired from being my friend. You tell me, am I asking too much?

1. You must NOT be in the friendship for only what you can get out of it; you must give back to me as a person as much as you take. I am a very generous person by nature. Do not take advantage of this.

2.. If you bitch to me about how broke you are and I feel sorry enough for you to give you $20 (no repay necessary), be smart enough to spend it on groceries or bills because I'll kick your ass if you come in the next day with a Starbuck's coffee and a muffin that used up half of that money. And then don't later have the nerve to tell me that you're so sad because you can't afford to feed your kids, buy pet food, pay your phone bill etc. Also, don't expect me to pay for your part of the friendship either. I'm not your date, I'm your friend. If you can't pay your half of the dinner, movie or whatever it is we are doing, then don't go out with me.

3. You must never, ever speak poorly of me behind my back. If you have something to say about me or a criticism of me, have the balls to say it to my face and let's discuss it. Backstabbing is cowardly and passive aggressive.

4. You must not abandon and neglect me or take the friendship for granted the minute you get "coupled up" with a new partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife etc.

5. You must listen to me when you ask my advice and not try and silence me because my opinion happens to be something you don't want to hear or something you disagree with. I always try and deliver bad news or differing opinions with the kindest of words so as to be gentle with your self esteem and your feelings.

6. Make me and our friendship a priority in your life. The greatest gift you can give someone in a friendship is the gift of your time and attention. If you do not have time to devote to the friendship, then don't call yourself my friend.

7. Be willing to compromise on all things from the big stuff to the little stuff. If I want to go and
do something and it's really not something you like or enjoy - do it anyway with me because you care about me and can be selfless on my behalf. Never forget all of the things I have sat through and endured simply because it was something you enjoyed.

8. When I call you with a problem or because I have had a bad day - give me your undivided attention. Don't take other calls that come in on the other line or calls that come in while we are at dinner on your cellphone while I am trying to talk to you. Don't chatter with your kids while I am trying to talk to you. If it's important enough for me to tell you about it it should be important enough for you to take the time and listen to me. Remember how often I have dropped everything to listen to you talk about your bad days and/or your problems.

9. Do not drink excessively and then, for no reason other than your drunkenness, verbally attack me in your drunken stupor and then expect me to "just forget about it" in the morning when you have sobered up. They say alcohol is a powerful truth serum so whatever you say when you are drunk in my presence is obviously how you really feel about me. And furthermore, we are now well into our 30s. Drunken behavior and excessive drinking should have been abandoned about 10 years ago when you finally grew up. If you are still exhibiting this behavior, call me when you do grow up and we will talk about being friends at that time.

10. Realize that no one is perfect, including you. People make mistakes. Be willing to both offer and accept an apology. If you cannot do both of these things, you do not deserve my friendship.

I mean really, folks, how hard is it? And since this firing process has resulted in the dismissal of 3 of my 6 friends, I am now down by 50%. Anyone want to be my friend?